Ghanaian veteran rapper and poet, Okyeame Kwame has shed some light on how to properly listen to people to understand what their trying to communicate.
Ghanaian veteran rapper and poet, Okyeame Kwame has shed some light on how to properly listen to people to understand what their trying to communicate.
According to him “sometimes, our partners get irritated when they are talking to us and they feel we are not listening”.
They say you are not listening, then we repeat what they said to them so they know that we heard what the said . Yes you heard me but you are still not listening!”.
Giving much insight on how one could be an effective listener, Okyeame Kwame, further among other things added that people should learn to listen without judging the other person or engage in anything that will destruct their attention.
“Hearing is a physiological construct while listening is a psychological construct which involves choice and the will to understand and maybe take an action.
Listening also involves taking in the data from an outside source, decoding it and broadcasting signals to the encoder that the message is relevant to you at the time,” Okyeame said in a post on his Facebook page.
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He added:
“Sometimes, certain sounds must be made to alert the speaker that the listener is interested. Oh! Sa! Hmmm! Oh noooo!
How do you listen? Do you hear everything you listen to? Does your listening encourage speakers to communicate with you ? Do you interject when people are speaking to you and pretend you are nice by saying: sorry to cut you?
Sometimes, one can listen with the right body language and intentions but hear nothing .
Tonight I am particularly interested in listening in the moment without the presence of the past. To be able to perceive without the interference of (past) experiences demand extreme focus on the present. Speech generates thoughts, thoughts are usually of the past and therefore perception is of the past. This trap causes a lot of people to listen but not hear. I used to judge the spirit behind every word, evaluate the meaning behind words, analyze the tone and at the end of the sentence hear myself instead of the speaker.
“Thinking is difficult that’s why most people judge”. Carl Jung
So is listening. If you can listen without judging, analyzing, criticizing, and evaluating the words, you can hear exactly what the speaker is saying.
The trick is really simple; one must listen to the whole sentence completely before evaluating it. In this case, a sentence Is understood on its whole merit and not as disjointed words or phrases. Since i learned to listen without judgement, I hear the speaker and not my thoughts. And this has given me immense clarity.
Have you realized that when people you respect speak, you hear it clearer than people you disrespect or find annoying?
My questions:
Do people say that you are a bad listener?
Can you listen without the presence of your past experiences?”.
According to him “sometimes, our partners get irritated when they are talking to us and they feel we are not listening”.
They say you are not listening, then we repeat what they said to them so they know that we heard what the said . Yes you heard me but you are still not listening!”.
Giving much insight on how one could be an effective listener, Okyeame Kwame, further among other things added that people should learn to listen without judging the other person or engage in anything that will destruct their attention.
“Hearing is a physiological construct while listening is a psychological construct which involves choice and the will to understand and maybe take an action.
Listening also involves taking in the data from an outside source, decoding it and broadcasting signals to the encoder that the message is relevant to you at the time,” Okyeame said in a post on his Facebook page.
He added:
“Sometimes, certain sounds must be made to alert the speaker that the listener is interested. Oh! Sa! Hmmm! Oh noooo!
How do you listen? Do you hear everything you listen to? Does your listening encourage speakers to communicate with you ? Do you interject when people are speaking to you and pretend you are nice by saying: sorry to cut you?
Sometimes, one can listen with the right body language and intentions but hear nothing .
Tonight I am particularly interested in listening in the moment without the presence of the past. To be able to perceive without the interference of (past) experiences demand extreme focus on the present. Speech generates thoughts, thoughts are usually of the past and therefore perception is of the past. This trap causes a lot of people to listen but not hear. I used to judge the spirit behind every word, evaluate the meaning behind words, analyze the tone and at the end of the sentence hear myself instead of the speaker.
“Thinking is difficult that’s why most people judge”. Carl Jung
So is listening. If you can listen without judging, analyzing, criticizing, and evaluating the words, you can hear exactly what the speaker is saying.
The trick is really simple; one must listen to the whole sentence completely before evaluating it. In this case, a sentence Is understood on its whole merit and not as disjointed words or phrases. Since i learned to listen without judgement, I hear the speaker and not my thoughts. And this has given me immense clarity.
Have you realized that when people you respect speak, you hear it clearer than people you disrespect or find annoying?
My questions:
Do people say that you are a bad listener?
Can you listen without the presence of your past experiences?”.
